Love & Joy

Songs for the Siren with my man

June 10, 2013
Songs for the Siren with my man

My husband hasn’t had as many lap dances as you might think. He’s had some. And frequently witnesses spontaneous mini-dances around the house when music makes me move. Pondering a just-for-him, dressed-to-seduce pole/lap dance as a 24th anniversary gift (it’s today), I was stumped for a song. How is that possible, you ask? It’s not, if I pick music I adore. Any one of the 25 on my sensual & passionate siren song list will make me happy. And he’d enjoy it too. But that would be a present (something I want him to have) rather than a gift (something he wants to receive). The dilemma? He doesn’t enjoy many of my siren songs. Instead of surprising him with a song I thought he might like, I asked him what he’d choose. I figured it would be sultry jazz like Norah Jones, Melody Gardot. Maybe Harry Connick. I was wrong. . Hubby’s Picks 1. Hot for Teacher by Van Halen. Really!?! We don’t even own this one!?! 2. I Touch Myself by the Divinyls. This makes more sense. Years ago he suggested it as a song for me for class. (I prefer P!nk’s cover.) I wanted more ideas. I threw

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Best Writing Book. Ever.

January 4, 2013
Best Writing Book. Ever.

Today’s giveaway item is Naked, Drunk and Writing by Adair Lara. Best book on writing I’ve ever read (and since 1992 I’ve read several per year). Why? It’s a catalyst for writing consistently. If you want to write essays or memoir it also provides the details you need to know about structure (think of it as the skeleton of article or book). An outline of questions that makes it (almost) effortless to know the heart and soul of your tale. Lara illustrates her points with sample writing from her students. She teaches about craft (the quality that makes writing come alive and hold a reader’s interest). You’ll learn fine writing. Like a fine wine, quality writing has character and personality. Yours. Illustrated with well chosen, specific details. Most importantly, she shares insights from personal experience that help writers sit butt in chair and write. She anticipates excuses because she’s been there. And has heard them all from her students. I bought an earlier self-published version of this book at Book Passage (a favorite Bay Area Bookstore) the day after I discovered an ending to a book I’d been contemplating for months. Weeks later I was in Adair’s memoir workshop beginning that book.

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Body Bliss from Music (7 Favorite CDs)

January 3, 2013
Body Bliss from Music (7 Favorite CDs)

My Dance Facts About By Your Side by Sade 465th dance at S Factor as second to last Thursday morning home class dance 6th time for this song in 7 years First time was chosen by classmate, song #37. Thank you Iris! CD as a lala.com trade. Still miss lala. And ping Top 15 pole dances in 2011 when it was described as a tender frolic & sweet sexy love shower Song #436 in 2012 as a dance of self-love Today I made my siren sisters cry with my dance of pure love Full circle moment Share love to free your heart to soar. I changed my planned gift for today because of this dance. I want to share seven of my favorite CDs (used, good condition) to bring another sister aural and body bliss. Each of these CDs has been an important part of my journey over the last seven years. The songs on different albums will appeal to you if you are touched by seduction, love, lust, passion, yearning, sadness, joy, playfulness and fun. Fascinating exercise:  Collect seven of your classic dance albums. Investigate the patterns across the albums to shed light on the emotional essence of your sexy soul. Albums

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Increase your bliss with wishes & action

January 2, 2013
Increase your bliss with wishes & action

One of my 2012 intentions:  Wish.DO. This intention continues to impact my life and behavior. Pink Bubble Meditation I play with pink bubble meditations and new moon wishes. The pink bubble got me to Kiawah for a retreat (and really did something), but not to New Orleans. Over the summer, when I received a New Orleans postcard from a friend living there I was sure I’d get to go. When fall came, my wrist woes would’ve required cancelation. I was missed. And told so many times by friends who’d attended. This brought me sweet joy and made me feel connected, like I’d been there energetically. My New Orleans wish didn’t come true the way I’d expected, yet I did receive much of what I’d hoped for in different ways, including dancing and spending time with retreat sisters who visited San Francisco. New Moon Wishes Over at FEM Central, Jennifer L Shelton recently confessed that she’d stopped her new moon wishes because the practice wasn’t working. I’ve noticed it hasn’t been very effective for me either. I suspect it has to do with all the specific rules about how to do them. The timing, the writing, the listing (more than two

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Leading from Womb. Indulging in Slow Goal Setting for 2013 with a Tarot Workbook

January 1, 2013
Leading from Womb. Indulging in Slow Goal Setting for 2013 with a Tarot Workbook

A woman shaman, like a spider spinning, must learn to lead from the womb. To move our attention from the head to the belly, from the mind to the body, a woman must learn to read the signals and learn to trust them. Otherwise she’ll never be sure of the difference between her intution and those little fearful voices in her head that tell her to be cautious, careful, stop, don’t and so on. ~ Vicki Noble In Shakti Woman—Feeling Our Fire, Healing Our World:  The New Female Shamanism, Vicki goes on to say:  tarot are great helpers in the process of becoming so centered in her own space and grounded in her own body that eventually she has no need of the outter oracles most of the time. I used tarot for years to clarify and validate my growing intuition, so that I could more confidently act on this awareness. I feel my intuition in different body parts. My heart has always been my strongest guide. Other body parts/areas guide me at different times too . When I first read this book a couple years ago I was just opening to the notion that tarot and oracle cards could

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