Lessons from the Pole

July 4th Pay What You Want Day for Stoke Your Fire!

July 4, 2013
July 4th Pay What You Want Day for Stoke Your Fire!

Summer Fire July 4th Sale 12 pm July 4th – 12 pm July 5:  Pay What You Want Day Sale is over. There’s still a few days to claim your spot to join the fiery fun. Stoke Your Fire! Be Sexy. Feel Fiery. When we women own our sexuality, we discover our erotic power. Our erotic power is our vitality. Our life force. Erotic power is the lust in luster. Without it, a woman’s light is dim. With it, she sparkles. When women shine, we become an unstoppable healing force in the world. Join me for 28 days of daily dares delivered to your in-box. Six days a week spend 10-20 minutes. One day per week indulge in an hour or two. Unleash your siren. Channel Pele’s primal passion. Today only in honor of Freedom:  Pay What YOU Want.  Anything Goes. Introductory price was $28 Regular price is $77. At $2.75 per dare less than the cost of a daily latte. Stoke Your Fire daily dares will do more for your erotic power than your morning energy drink. Claim Your Spot Now. Offer expires at 11:59 tonight noon on July 5.

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7 Secrets I Learned Pole Dancing in My 40s that I Wish I Knew in My 20s

June 30, 2013
7 Secrets I Learned Pole Dancing in My 40s that I Wish I Knew in My 20s

June’s Pole Dance Blog Hop theme is “things i wish i had known before i started pole dancing” Pole and sensual dance gifted me with body bliss. It taught me how to drop in to my body. And listen to her speak. Life keeps getting better because of pole dancing. Here are 7 secrets I learned pole dancing in my forties that I wish I knew in my twenties. 1. Feelings are our Friends Before pole dancing I learned the importance of feeling emotions in my body. If I hadn’t, I never would’ve had the courage (or skills) to feel the fear—that I’d be the least flexible and fattest in the class—and go anyway. Still, I resisted ‘negative’ feelings. Pole dancing taught me to welcome them all. To appreciate the beauty in tears (of joy, awe, sadness), vulnerability and messy imperfection (my most recent Aha). Dive deep into emotions. Swim and swirl in them. Revel in them. Be with them. Express them through dance, music, drawing, painting, etc. There are gifts waiting to be discovered on the other side. Besides, when the universe wants you to learn a lesson, she’ll just keep triggering you until you get it anyway. When

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Unleash the Sexy Siren Within

April 10, 2013
Unleash the Sexy Siren Within

. Have you met your inner siren? What Clarissa Pinkola Estés calls the Wild Woman. The one who knows. When women reassert their relationship with the wildish nature, they are gifted with a permanent and internal watcher, a knower, a visionary, an oracle, an inspiratrice, an intuitive, a maker, a creator, an inventor, and a listener who guide, suggest and urge a vibrant life in the inner and outer worlds. When women are with the Wild Woman, the fact of that relationship glows through them. ~ Clarissa Pinkola Estés What Sheila Kelley refers to as the Erotic Creature. Her definition and other quotes appear in my post:  Honoring the wild nature of women. Your inner siren is your sexy side. The primal part of you that’s hidden away like Pandora’s box. For safekeeping. Safety. And, because it’s presumed evil. As women we’re shamed and blamed because our basic nature is sexy. We turn men on without even trying. That’s scary. . But it doesn’t have to be. . The more we relax into our bodies. Move in ways that feel luxurious. Adorn ourselves how we like it. The more erotic we become to the male gaze. And the more we

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What’s in My Beach and Pole Dance Bags

March 13, 2013
What’s in My Beach and Pole Dance Bags

For the last two months my favorite friday nights have included dancing on Ocean Beach at sunset followed by freedom pole (aka open pole, flight club, etc.) at Steel Heart Dance. The poles there are 20 feet high and often ice cold. Recently, while searching for reviews on Mighty Grip Ankle Protectors for these Mt Everest poles, I stumbled into a blog hop and facebook group of pole dance bloggers. I joined and committed to particpate in the March Pole Dance Blog Hop on products and companies. In addition to what’s pictured, there’s a notebook, a regular pen, ipod, headphones, iPhone 4—chosen for it’s camera (With Smugmug’s Camera Awesome app it provides most photos for the blog), lara bars and other routine items. Most what’s in my bags is devoted to fun. If this is your first time here, you may not know that playfulness is my essence when I dance. Play is my path to bliss. In the studio I play in, on and with poles, wall, floor, chairs, daybeds, stools, platform bases (super fun toy), curtains and even shadows on walls. On the beach—the sand, wind and waves provide wonderful energy to feel and explore. And with playmates—their movement,

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Reclaiming a lost piece of my soul with dance on Baker Beach

March 5, 2013
Reclaiming a lost piece of my soul with dance on Baker Beach

After receiving an extra long hug from Brian, my husband, when he arrived home from work on that Thursday, “It’s worse than I imagined. I cried all afternoon. It hurts deep inside from here to there,” I said pointing to the base of my sternum and belly button. “I almost can’t breathe. I left a piece of my soul in that room.” He hugged me again, commiserating, “Now you know what I feel like when I have to take down the Christmas decorations.” As we separated I half smiled and chuckled. “It’s not funny.” He smirked at me then stepped into the next room to look through the mail on our dining room table. Full body laughter erupted in me. “It is funny that you don’t think it’s funny.” He mock glared at me. “Is it okay if I go get changed.” He walked through the kitchen to our bedroom at the back of the house. As I reheated leftovers for dinner I said a silent prayer of thanks for his teasing and ability to make me laugh even on my saddest days. It lightened my mood, easing some of the pain flooding me after having our last class in

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