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Surprise Your Body With 20 Sexy Secret Santa Songs

December 22, 2014
Surprise Your Body With 20 Sexy Secret Santa Songs

One of my friends, Veruca Blue of Fear of Flight, coordinated a secret santa music exchange many years ago on the former S Factor forum, where we met. She invited members to share a favorite undiscovered song and describe it one word. Most of us submitted more than one song and limited ourselves to a single word. My contributions were buoyant, slinky, and simmering. This word (ahem, phrase submitted by JJ):  lonelycircusfreak so perfectly described the song, that the notion of a fun, creative emotional phrase was born. Btw, if you’re a life coach seeking support, check out JJ’s offerings. Several years later, I adopted the idea as a way to discover new music and maintain and strengthen bonds with S Factor pole dancing friends across the country and world (one year I mailed music to Australia). One of my faves from the 2012 collection was PleadingPassionDarkestYearningBottomlessLoss. It helped me grieve the loss of the Fillmore St S Factor studio when it closed two years ago. One of my friends fell particularly hard for ArrogantPlayfulGrowlingBitchy. Here’s the full list with spotify link for listening to Secret Santa Songs from 2012 I didn’t do it in 2013 because of the time required. This year

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Behind the Scenes of My Brave Blindfold Dance That Made My Classmate Cry

December 19, 2014
Behind the Scenes of My Brave Blindfold Dance That Made My Classmate Cry

Monday I shared 50 Courage Anthems to kick off Courage Week here on the blog as part of Bernadette Pleasant’s Emotion in Motion Blog Tour. Tuesday it was 8 Courageous Quotes. Wednesday it was vulnerable wordswag. Today (sorry, a day late)  it’s a story about my ‘brave’ blindfold dance that made a classmate cry. Next week one day, I’ll share the story about how courage is all heart. In addition to Bernadette it also features another blindfold dance. To attend Bernadette’s January 4th workshop, which will create an impactful, life-changing experience for each participant you can purchase tickets here. Plan to Dance in the Light Dancing in the dark regularly again after 18 months of weekly beach dancing was a tough adjustment. I longed for a sun filled studio to play with sun and shadows. So, a few weeks ago, when I was uninspired by a recent S Factor class assignment (which I’d already done several times) I planned to dance with our skylight panel open, something I’d toyed with since learning it existed. But then I stayed up too late writing the night before class. I squinted, even while wearing sunglasses, while driving across the Bay Bridge to class because my eyes become

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WordSwag: Sacred Space to Bare Our Souls

December 17, 2014
WordSwag:  Sacred Space to Bare Our Souls

There is so much incredible wisdom in the 100,000+ words I’ve shared—here, on the blogs for PDBloggers, BadKitty + Bodybinds, and in magazines including More, Vertical Arts + Fitness, Wild Sister + Le Vie Sirene —if I say so myself! I’m particularly proud of my most recent piece at BadKitty:  Love Letter to Pole Dancing: 11 Things That Make Me Grateful. I mined it for quotes of gold to share on social media. Then I discovered WordSwag. And made this. WordSwag Backstory I’d considered buying the app before, but didn’t take the plunge until my new friend Jordana of Magical Business Academy Mastermind mentioned her obsession with WordSwag. How could I not trust the recommendation of someone who showers herself in glitter? Because as you probably know, I believe in the magical power of glitter and swear that sand is Nature’s glitter. It’s only been a few days, but I adore the app! It really is like having a graphic designer in your pocket! (I started describing it this way before I knew it’s their tag line!) My first ‘WordSwag’ pairs the essence of C… is for Church from the BadKitty piece, with a photo that made me feel vulnerable to share so

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8 Quotes to Inspire Courage. Particularly When You Feel Discouraged and Disheartened

December 16, 2014
8 Quotes to Inspire Courage. Particularly When You Feel Discouraged and Disheartened

Monday I shared 50 Courage Anthems to kick off Courage Week here on the blog as part of Bernadette Pleasant’s Emotion in Motion Blog Tour. Today it’s 8 Courageous Quotes. Follow discussions on social media  and share your words of wisdom with the #EmotioninMotion and #PoleDancingProfessor hashtags. To attend Bernadette’s January 4th workshop, which will create an impactful, life-changing experience for each participant you can purchase tickets here. Succumbing to Discouragement I experienced several business disappointments during the summer. I lost heart and pondered my next steps. I felt a little lost. I escaped with TV. Then turned to dance. Nature. Hugs and encouragement. I regrouped. Refocused. Got help. Looking back, I wonder if I had a few well-chosen pearls of wisdom, could I have skipped weeks of licking my wounds? Here’s hoping the quotes I found will encourage you (and me) the next time expectations are crushed. And we feel disheartened. As a writer, I am fascinated by the fact that I never noticed courage makes up most of both dis-courage + en-courage. Aha-light-bulb-chills moment as I type. A few days ago I also discovered the root of courage is heart. Origin: Middle English corage, from Anglo-French curage, from quer, coer heart, from Latin cor.

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50 Courage Anthems: Songs to Increase Your Courage

December 15, 2014
50 Courage Anthems:  Songs to Increase Your Courage

This post is part of the Emotion in Motion Blog Tour, which I am pleased to be a part of along with other emotional and expressive women bloggers. Please play with us on social media by tagging your discussions #EmotioninMotion and #PoleDancingProfessor. How Does Courage Feel? When I check-in with myself (and my body) about how I feel, it’s rare for me to report back:  Courageous. I’m much more likely to feel joyful, playful or passionate. Perhaps grateful, awed or feisty. Even sassy. And, of course, I experience my fair share of sadness, frustration and fear. Family and friends (and I count you among them!) describe me as brave or bold more often than I actually feel that way. Brave is being fearless (or not afraid). Bold is feeling confident when facing difficult or dangerous situations. Pole dancing has definitely stretched my be-not-afraid and confidence capacities. When I attempted my first fire-fly spin or shyly shared my first pole photo in a secret forum a year later, if someone had whispered in my ear: In a few years you’re going to be known for your ‘sensual, honey dipped words’ as the Pole Dancing Professor,” I would’ve said “You’re crazy!” And I

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