Awww… he’s still so romantic
My morning ritual is to slowly side-roll out of bed, then use the hallway bathroom and put in my contacts. This morning a lime green telephone shaped post-it note from my husband greeted me in the mirror: HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!! LOVE YA!!
How sweet, I smiled. He must’ve been worried I’d be cranky after getting to bed at 2AM last night. He’d affectionately warned me not to throw sneakers at the birds when they chirped me awake. Funny, I didn’t hear them until after the 7AM alarm.
Next I made coffee. Another post-it waited on the cabinet above the coffee maker:
YOU ARE SO VERY BEAUTIFUL! LOVE YA
My heart swelled with love and warmth spread through my body. Aww, he’s still so romantic.
Then I opened the cabinet to retrieve a filter and a post-it winked at me from the bamboo canister of ground Peet’s decaf Mocca-Java: I LOVE YOUR HUGS
A huge grin spread across my face. I felt hugged. I love my man. Maybe I’ll lap dance for him.
I filled the filter with coffee then rinsed the glass coffee pot and set it on the counter next to the sink. I noticed a flash of green off to the right on the counter. It must’ve fallen off the microwave in the corner. I re-stuck it to the door: I LOVE YOU, PRECIOUS
His nickname for me still melts me and makes me feel more special than all the diamonds, pearls and gold in the world. Yup, anniversary lap dance in his future.
I turned around and took three steps to cross our kitchen grabbing our water pitcher to brew the coffee. I refilled it at the sink and then returned to the fridge. I hadn’t decided yet if I wanted orange juice this morning, but as I slid the Brita onto the door shelf, I noticed another note: YOU MAKE ME SMILE !! !! (Both exclamations had a big smile under them)
My own smile grew. This is so much fun! Orange juice it is.
While waiting for the coffee to brew, I checked email. Another message stuck to the computer: I LOVE YOU!!
I took a sip of coffee and noticed another on a tiger bank he brought home from work for me: I LOVE YOUR KISSES. Yum. Wish he were here so I could get me some of them kisses.
“Imitation is Suicide. Insist on yourself; never imitate.– Ralph Waldo Emerson
Write down in which areas of your life you have to overcome these suicidal tendencies of imitation, and how you can transform them into a newborn you – one that doesn’t hide its uniqueness, but thrives on it. There is a “divine idea which each of us represents” – which is yours?”
Hmm, there’s also common wisdom advising the contrary: Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Don’t reinvent the wheel.
Reinventing the wheel
A MythBusters episode my husband watched last night had fun with that concept—literally reinventing the wheel over and over and over again. Adam and Jamie filled a flat tire with hay and drove the car over a natural rough terrain obstacle course. Myth confirmed. Then they tied a thick branch under the tire as a make-shift sled. Myth busted when the stick disintegrated on a speed bump or in a pothole. Next thing I saw, the car had a wheel made out of a tree stump. It looked like something out of the Flinstones. Then they used just the rim, then a man-hole cover. They concluded by racing each other—one with four rims, the other with four man-hole covers. If you know a little about science you can guess who won. (Hint: surface area increases traction.)
I’ve caught bits of the show with my husband and appreciate short bursts because I’m a curious person. But as they dive deeper into the myths for their core audience I can’t help asking “So what? What’s the point? Why do I care?” I might use the hay knowledge if I’m ever caught with flight tire, without a spare and cell phone reception. Even without hay, I’d try to plug the leak with something. Or maybe I can drive on the rim without serious damage. I pay enough attention to be sure about that. The rest of the trivia not very helpful in my life.
I suspect the only original idea they had during the episode was their race. The whole show is based on confirming or debunking myths, cultural ideas. Not unique ideas. I suppose you could argue that the testing of the myths is the divine idea.
One of my problems is I don’t believe there are many unique, truly original ideas. I find that the Universe grants the same ideas to more than one person to get the message out and heard. I tend to remember what I’ve learned and from who or where. With my academic background, I believe it’s important to reference and credit your sources. Build your case and persuade with evidence. Have and explain reasons. How the idea is conveyed. To what audience. Who hears it? Maybe that’s where the uniqueness comes in.
So, is it re-inventing the wheel if there’s a purpose and a passion behind it? What if there’s a slight revision? How much revision is needed to make an idea new? Is the devil in the details?
I’ve entered a grey zone. For me, the answers to these questions depend on specifics. Sometimes I imitate, borrow, and adapt ideas to make them my own. I learn well by example. Some won’t change. They become part of me and fit like a great pair of shoes. Some of them will morph into something completely new like an altered piece of clothing on Project Runway. In the end they all integrate and become part of me, one unique and precious soul.
Were my husband’s post-it notes of love unique? No, not really. We’ve both done similar things for each other before. Even the messages are words I’ve heard before. Not that I ever tire of them. This morning’s experience was special in it’s own way. It’s never happened just this way before. And won’t again. No one else could do it just like he did, nor make me feel so special and loved. It’s another magic moment in our life-time love.
Author’s Note: I wrote this while listening to an itunes genius playlist seeded with Paloma Faith’s Sexy Chick—cover of David Guetta’s Sexy Bitch (feat Akon). As I debated about writing more on uniqueness and my divine idea(s) I heard Lyden David Hall sing All You Need is Love (from Love Actually).
I interpreted it as a message from the Universe to stop with one (of my many) divine ideas & a question to ponder:
Love is a verb.
When is a musical cover unique?
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