They both bring me joy. In fact, I believe watching dance, especially dance that expresses authentic emotion, bonds the audience, even through the TV. Research suggests watching others dance may lead to similar changes in the brain as actually performing the moves.
If I could only pick one of these shows, So You Think You Can Dance wins because it is real life and real emotions. Without fail, the performances that move me to cry or to jump up and cheer are the ones that move the entire audience. Here are three of my favorites – each one still gives me chills when I watch them.
This one is about addiction.
I’d had a cathartic dance to the same song at S Factor a few weeks before, so thought that was why I was so moved. But the reaction of the audience and judges showed me that we all felt the same; we were all connected to the intense yearning they portrayed. Before this experience, I’d thought the expression of authentic emotion was what made S Factor so magical. Watching this performance taught me that other forms of dance have the power to touch, bond and transform as well. It led me to discover the little known field of dance therapy, which in turn, has me excited about research again and optimistic about putting my PhD to good use. Now, I just need collaborators.
This one is a prayer – ‘nuff said.
Pure powerful fun. I finally got what all the fuss about Alex Wong, a ballet dancer, was about. Hip-hop combined with ballet. Whoa!
Watching the video again now (sorry I coudn’t embed this one), I also understand why my playful inner tiger cub (the heart of my erotic creature) likes dancing to hip-hop so much.
Speaking of my playfulness reminds me of the long (16 pages!!) questionnaire Sheila Kelly asked October 2010 retreat attendees to fill out beforehand. At the time, I didn’t understand the point of many of the questions, but filled them out anyway. It turned out some of answers provided keen insight into the emotional core of my authentic sexuality. Here are two questions adapted from it that might give you insight about yourself and even impact your screen time.
1) If you had to be trapped in a TV show for a month, which show would you choose?
My Answer: So you think you can dance, or Glee because it seems like so much fun, not that I want to go back to high school…
2) If you could wake up tomorrow in the body of someone you’ve seen on TV, in a movie, or video would you do so? Whom would you pick? Why?
My Answer: Yes, for a day. After watching this video (the transition at 1:00-1:10) of Zoraya Judd, I told my husband “I wish I could be in her body, just for a day, to be THAT strong on the pole.” I’ve had the same desire to dance in Britney Spears’ and Beyonce’s bodies after some of their videos. Oh and Lauren Froderman, the most recent winner of So You Think You Can Dance. To be able pick up dancing like she does…
I can’t wait to see Lauren in a Broadway musical one day!
When I came home from the retreat I had no interest in television. For months. I was too busy living my life.
But Sometimes TV has dark side.
I got sick three times in January and February. I watched way too much TV. It sucked me in like a black hole. It depressed me.
At the moment, I’m healthy and happy again, back to living my joyful life.
But I’ve seen this pattern enough times in my life to know I need help to avoid being sucked into the black hole in the future. When I am sick, exhausted or uninspired I watch too much TV. Sometimes it’s even just one evening. But that’s an evening I won’t get back.
Here’s my question: How do you relax and restore when you are exhausted (but not sleepy)?
There are times when I feel too exhausted to write, read, or think. Too tired for sex. Too drained to call a friend or do anything creative. Forget exercise. More often than not, out of habit, I watch TV or rent a movie. Sometimes that’s the right choice for me. But I make this choice too often.
When I remember to choose joy and vibrancy I listen to music, with headphones if I need to shut out the rest of the world. Or I soak in a bath or hot tub. I’d choose massage if it were free or I could afford it more regularly. If I could step out my door and stare at the ocean or walk barefoot along the beach without driving for an hour I’d do that. I need more alternatives.
Would you share what works for you? By yourself? With your friends and family?
Here’s to living and savoring our lives! And to the return of So You Think You Can Dance on May 26, 2011!